You see a friend suffering. What you want is to ease that suffering.
What you want is to ease the suffering of all those you care about. To help where you can.
In service of what you want, you will aid your friend.
In service of what you want, you must indeed recognize that to help where you can, you must occasionally not help where you cannot, and your definition of 'cannot' must include a certain level of self-care and responsibility. Else you will grind yourself to the quick doing what you want, and thereby fail to achieve what you want.
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You see a friend suffering. What you want is to ease that suffering.
What you want is to ease the suffering of all those you care about. To help where you can.
In service of what you want, you will aid your friend.
In service of what you want, you must indeed recognize that to help where you can, you must occasionally not help where you cannot, and your definition of 'cannot' must include a certain level of self-care and responsibility. Else you will grind yourself to the quick doing what you want, and thereby fail to achieve what you want.